I am not my hair

'Oh no I am not taking out my hair until the stallions leaves....I don't want to traumatise him' I remember myself saying.

What would be so traumatic? The fact that I have real hair, the fact that it is short, he met me and fell for me when I had my afro.

'ah Ife, comme tu es belle avec tes cheveaux, oui, je les préfére comme ca'

'A woman looks so much better with long hair'

So as I ponder on these comments that have been made over the past 3 months I think to myself, why have I kept this rag on my head for so long? I didn't want to start my work experience with my afro, so I re-did the front, then I thought well, lets not change it and freak people out but was I trying to fit in?

I have no problems telling people that my hair is fake as the lady at the supermarket was informed but I have been more than ready to take it out for a month now.

I am a little disappointed in myself and so as I start the long process of pulling out my matted braids, I'm ready for the looks and comments of where has your hair gone? Oh I preferred it the way it was before. Do I care? Yes, because my afro is part of me. I love weaves and extensions too and I aint no natural campaigner but at the same time, I do find it offensive when people say that they don't like my hair.

I have worked on this look and love it and I think that I forgot that..................

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E_5jIt0f5Z4